Just when you think you have everything in life going smoothly, everything goes sideways. Things still look normal to anyone outside, but the internal turmoil obliterates peace and focus. You keep putting one foot in front of the other. You do all the normal things, not as well, but you struggle to keep going forward. Everything becomes hard.
Without focus, intention becomes mist and goals become far away dreams. Operating in the dreamy mist things are dropped, misplaced, forgotten, broken, and daily life becomes a nightmarish prison. You may call it the blues, being out of sorts, anxiety, or depression. Others may call it being negative, or wrong thinking, while you call it being realistic, and seeing things as they are.
How it starts can be mysterious. One day you feel okay, and you are keeping all of your plates spinning. Then an unkind word, a thoughtless gesture, a demand that requires immediate attention and external pressures cause distractions, and the plates start to wobble. For awhile it looks like you will get all your plates spinning again, but there is always another plate to get started, and always another plate starts to wobble. Until finally, you either stop the plates one by one, or the plates come crashing down.
Fortunately, all things come to an end, and rest goes a long way to setting things right again. Yes it is cliché, because it is so true, but what you need to do is relax, let go, stop trying to control everything, and give it time. You may need a little separation from those emotional issues, so take some time, let go and regroup. Some things must run their course, and all your effort to force an earlier resolution will only add to your troubles. Some plates need to be allowed to drop. Some things are beyond your control, no matter how much effort you expend.
Once you are rested life won’t be such a nightmare. You will be able to see things in a more realistic and focused way. Your anxiety and frustration won’t dominate every situation. You will stop reacting to every wobble as if it is a terrible disaster. You will have perspective, and renewed energy.
And I will be able to read this very good advice over and over again the next time I feel things are spinning out of control.