“What’s the word of the day,” Hubby asked.
I told him, “Base.”
“You are my base, my foundation, my rock,” my husband dramatically exclaimed.
“Whoa! I’m not God. I’m only a woman,” I said.
With obvious relish Hubby said, “Yes you are!”
The real base of marriage is commitment. But wait, what about love? Love may lead you to make the commitment. Once the commitment is made, love will be tested. Ideas come into conflict. Differences reveal themselves. Life presents one challenge after another: money problems, sickness, demands on our time and attention.
Even our greatest blessings come with challenges.
Family is a blessing and marriage combines the influence of two separate families. Families with different ways of doing things. Families with different methods of dealing, or not, with conflict, money, and time. Families come with baggage that a couple must learn to deal with.
Our children come with worries, and are a source of conflict in a marriage. There is no manual included with children, except our experience with the family of our birth, which can be very different for each person. Our child raising ideas change with things we learn as we go along. In the end, children go out on their own, and if you are lucky, you are left with your spouse.
Careers can be a great source of income, self-worth, and stress for yourself and your marriage. Careers require education, long hours, maybe travel, separation for lengths of time (short and long), and often relocation. Just when things are going well, you have worked out the difficulties, and you are at the top, it all ends. You are retired.
Retirement is a blessing that requires the couple to readjust. Now that we have all this time together how do we fit together? Unending leisure loses its attraction. It is easy to get on each other’s nerves.
Life is full of chaos. Life is one big jumble of good, bad, and unpredictable. Making the commitment to marriage makes love endure.