Alright! You win.
Have it your way.
I don’t care.
If that’s the way you want it.
You’re right, as always.
The argument has gone on and on and finally you decide you are done. You can’t win, and nothing you can say or do will really make any difference, so you tap out. They get the hollow victory, and you hope they choke on it. Problem solved. Right? Wrong! The problem is still there. You can work around it, but there is no resolution and you both know it. Life goes on. Some arguments are not winnable.
You can tell me short-haired cats are better than long-haired cats all you want. I can agree that short-haired cats leave less hair around the house, and are a lot less work to own, but the argument and my agreement mean nothing in the end, because I just love those puffy long-haired cats. Anger will do you no good so do not be exasperated by my choice. You don’t have to like my choice. To continue in a relationship you must accept my choice, even though we both know we disagree. If my choice bothers you enough you can just go someplace else where you are more happy.
The bottom line is, I am who I am. You can take me or leave me. I have been left before.
When childhood friends learned about my dislike of racist jokes they left. When I refused the sexual advances of friends who were swingers (sexually non exclusive partners) and shared my view of relationships as an exclusive loving relationship, they also left. Friends and a few family members who have disagreed with my political choices have stopped coming around. I imagine others just don’t like my sense of humor.
If life were like social media, we could just block the content we don’t like. You dislike my sarcasm, you can just block it. I dislike your political views, I can block them. We agree animal abuse is bad, so you think we all should be vegan, I can block that. We can go on with our relationship. I don’t want to change you, just disagree and don’t want to argue.
But maybe life is like social media. Maybe we can like someone, even be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t agree with us completely on everything. Maybe we can have a little tolerance for differences. Maybe we can overlook or forgive short comings. Maybe, we can learn our differences aren’t all that important.