Insecure Style

Suburban kids copy the style of inner-city urban kids.  This could be because the inner-city is where cool was born: jazz, hip hop, rap.  Music with a beat, emotion, passion comes from the inner-city.  The vibrant inner-city is now attracting the  young adults of the suburbs, with coffee houses, diners, clubs, meeting places of all kinds, including on stoops, corners, playgrounds and urban parks.  Creativity blooms with cultural and interpersonal interaction in an urban area.

Suburbs attract families with spacious yard, that need a minimum of an hour once or twice a week just for mowing, Mowing is a job assigned to a suburban kid as soon as parents decide he or she is capable.  Mowing is fun, with a driving lawnmower, and the kid doesn’t have a driver’s license.  Mowing is a lot of work if you have to push that lawn mower.  The  suburban family must devote more hours to maintaining groomed landscaping and defending it against wildlife.  In addition, every fall all members of the family pick up leaves.

Meeting in areas far from home in adult manageable and adult organized activities, suburban kids shuttled from one activity to another in mom vans have barely any time for dreaming with your head in the clouds. The local high school is the center of activity for the suburban community, but distance from home prevents pick up games and just hanging out with friends.   Suburban kids, live for the day they get a driver’s license and the freedom to go anywhere without Mom or Dad.  Even with a driver’s license it takes a 30 minute or more drive to go to the mall, or anyplace they can just hang out with their friends, and is not an activity encouraged by mall security nor parents.

Mimicking a style that is far removed from their structured lives, suburban kids adopt the music and styles of inner-city kids.  This has become so prevalent that suburban schools are once again trying to legislate personal style with dress codes. Parents, happy that the schools are stepping in, are free from endless arguments over style choices with their children.

One style is the focus of these dress codes: sagging jeans and trousers.  Who could have guessed that this “style” would have spread across all demographics of the United States, and lasted so long.  This is a style that has the pants of a young man, and sometimes even a young woman, hanging off their butts, revealing their boxer shorts.  These kids cling to their pants to keep them at the correct level while they walk about town.  More than one person has lost the fight with gravity very publicly, often with the help of a friend, and ended up having to retrieve their pants from around their ankles.

The other day, I watched a young man with his harms full, trying to walk in a way to keep from losing his pants.  Although spared my laughter by the closed windows of my car, but I could not tear my eyes away from him as he struggled with every step making his trousers slip a little farther.  How long could he keep his dignity?  Before he was more revealed than he wanted, he ducked around a corner, into a shadowed spot, and readjusted he pants and his load before continuing.

There is a reason us old folks wear our pants secured at the waist with a belt.  We prefer to keep our pants, jeans, and trousers in place, and allows freedom of leg movement, and leaves hands free for other work.  If you want to express yourself with this insecure style, wear some great boxers.  We are happy to watch the show.

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  1. You know, my son was using PowerPoint for a school project he had been working on for hours when the computer froze and the only thing to do was quit out. We were sure his work would be lost as he did not save it but somehow it was autosaved. Did you try searching your whole computer for it? Assuming you did but just thought I’d suggest. Anyway, sorry, I’m sure you’ll be able to recreate it!


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